Well, hopefully your alternator is really not, as they say,
boro-boro (nearly worn out).
As agitating as it is, it'd probably be a good idea to take a deep breath at some point and start checking things from the beginning again. A visual recheck to ensure there's no obvious looseness somewhere is always good of course.
If current draw from
different devices is causing a problem, the issue has to be either the voltage source or resistance that shouldn't be there along the wiring shared by all those things - meaning the battery/alternator output through the fusible links and out
to the loads, or the
shared ground path back to the battery
from those loads (chassis and ground strap). In any kind of wire or connector, any "bad" connection is going to cause a potential voltage drop. Examples include poor contact or corrosion between surfaces, broken strands of wire, and undersized wire). Larger wires than required are not a problem; the wiring harness could be redone with jumper cables and no more current would be used.
While circuits are powered, you measure DC voltage with the black probe on battery ground and the red where you're measuring. To avoid any potential measurement problem with having the meter's circuits in parallel with what you're measuring, it's preferable to measure the voltage to ground at either end and take the difference to get the voltage change. At all points on the path to the load's "plus" input, the voltage should stay close to the battery voltage; from the load's "negative" terminal to battery negative, the voltage should be close to zero (ground). The "load" being any one or combo of things that use up voltage,
not wires and switches. You may even want to consider (carefully)
using pins or unbent paper clips to get into places where a multimeter probe wouldn't normally fit.
If you're measuring resistance, it should be with everything off, the probes on either side of what you're measuring, and clearly nothing else connected between those points besides what you're measuring with the meter. If you aren't positive that's the case, disconnect one end of the thing you're measuring in order to know for certain there's not also another connection between the two points somewhere else. Without that disconnect, you'd be measuring a combined resistance across multiple paths, which would be inaccurate.